When online dating turns to real life...

Online dating services are fun places to meet new people, and the friends you'll meet online can be the most loving you'll ever know. Chatting online or through email is safe, but meeting someone in person that you've met on the net for the first time needs a bit of common sense.

How to Spot a Cheater, Fraud or Married Man

Yes, many stats say that up to 30% of the men found in singles chat rooms or with online personals are, in "real" life married, or vice a versa! To decipher if the nagging feelings you have could be real or imagined. Here's a few guidelines:

• 1. Your partner starts exercising vigorously and getting in shape for no reason.
  
• 2. The moment he/she gets home after yet 'another late night at the office,' Your partner jumps right into the shower.
  
• 3. The moment your partner gets out of the shower, he/she's unusually attentive, considerate and oddly interested in the details of your day.
  
• 4. At parties, you are introduced as a friend.
  
• 5. You are given needlessly detailed explanations of his or her whereabouts.
  
• 6. You receive 'just to check in' calls with compulsive frequency.
  
• 7. Your partner suddenly wants to have sex with you more than ever. Or.
  
• 8. He/she loses interest in sex with you.
  
• 9. Your partner now keeps track of the contents of his/her pockets.
  
• 10. His/her side of nightly business calls are a series of monosyllabic responses.

Hot little tip: Better to confront him or her than silently stew.

How to Tell if He's Serious About You - or not

You've known him a year, a month, maybe just a week... and while he hasn't said the L word yet, these clues reveal he's smitten. Here's The Deal:

• 1. You call him at work and his secretary puts you through immediately.
  
  
• 2. He picks you up at the airport.
  
  
• 3. He's comfortable listening to his phone messages in front of you.
  
  
• 4. He refers to the two of you as 'we'.
  
  
• 5. He starts checking in nightly, also calls you at work first thing in the morning.
  
  
• 6. You compliment him on a jacket or shirt and he keeps wearing it.
  
  
• 7. He stocks your favorite wine/snacks/candy.
  
  
• 8. He asks you to go clothes shopping.
  
  
• 9. He screens his calls but picks up when he hears your voice.
  
  
• 10. He brings you soup when you're sick.

How to Get the Most Out of a Blind Date

Every blind date involves equal parts luck and skill. There's not much you can do about the former, but you can take some of the mystery out of a mystery date by learning a few key strategies, Here's How:

• 1. Keep your expectations realistic. Sure, he or she could be your 'Mr. or Ms. Right', but if you walk in with a fantasy or projection of what you wish your date to be, you're bound to be disappointed.
  
  
• 2. Give your blind date a chance. Okay, so she's wearing a sequined tube top or he parts his hair down the middle. Find out what your date is really like. Worry about a lack of style later.
  
  
• 3. Don't spill all of your problems on a first date. Save that for therapy.
  
  
• 4. Remember that your date is just as scared of you as you are of him/her.
  
  
• 5. Be yourself. If he's a stockbroker or she's a tennis player, don't pretend to follow the market or be an Andre Agassi fan.
  
• 6. Always leave yourself an out. Tell your date at the beginning of the date that you have tentative plans with a friend later, just in case you need to use that excuse.
  

Hot little tip: There is nothing desperate about taking your life into your own hands instead of waiting around for things to magically happen. If you're getting hot and bothered, you've probably found a winner.

How to Make-up After a Fight

Would you rather always be right or be in a good relationship? Here's How:

• 1. Don't go to bed angry. It's best to agree on this approach before you get into an argument.
  
  
• 2. Make a friendly gesture. If you make the initial overture, it's likely it will be reciprocated.
  
  
• 3. Apologize for something you did in the fight. This opens the door for a real discussion.
  
  
• 4. Call a truce. Agree to think about the problem and discuss it calmly later.
  
  
• 5. Don't give your partner the silent treatment. Ignoring someone only distances you further.
  
  
• 6. Accept your partner's apology.
  
  
• 7. Make a love effort. It's not enough to apologize, but quality time helps you focus on what's great about the relationship as opposed to the fight.

Hot little tip: Give someone the space they need to open up. Learn the fine art of compromise. Don't foster jealousy. Invite him/her to go out with your friends.

How to Bounce Back After a Break Up?

How to deal with the devastation of being dumped? Here's How:

• Give yourself a break, chickapoo - Your ex is no doubt the lowlife. Take a breather, and ponder what type of guy will really fit the bill, as it were.
  
  
• Stop making excuses. Don't put your life on hold because you feel you can't trust men anymore. Most are ok, some are outstanding, and yes, there are a few pigs out there. Hm, that actually might be an insult to the common swine!
  
  
• Ease yourself back into dating, day at a time. ABC's Desperate Housewives and a pint of Ben & Jerry's Brownie batter is a dandy substitute!
  
  
• Don't jump into bed too quickly. It's better to err on the side of sexual caution. Try
  Toys instead of boys, you might just find it to good to be true!
  
  
• Don't make someone new pay for the crimes of your ex. Let go of cynicism.
  
  
• Don't pick someone new just because they're the opposite of your ex. Look for balance.
  
  
Learn the art of compromise. High standards shouldn't be confused with the refusal to compromise.

Without risk, there is no reward.

How to Make a Long Distance Love Work

Long distance love on the Internet can be rocky, but you can still steer the way to your sweetie's heart. Here's How:

• 1. Never go into a Long Distance romance with huge expectations.
  
  
• 2. Communication is key. Modern technology makes it easy.
  
  
• 3. Visit as often as you can.
  
  
• 4. A nightly phone call works wonders when someone misses you.
  
• 5. Send small, meaningful gifts to show you care.
  
  
• 6. Send letters with cute phrases that only you two share. Creating a special language keeps you close.

Hot littie tip:You need trust and commitment to make this work.
Go half's on phone bills to cut down costs.
After a visit, plan how often you'll call and visit so you know for sure you'll stay in touch.

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Defining Romance
There are always a number of men who look vaguely offended when they hear the word "romance," and women who mutter about how they loathe pink hearts. But it doesn't have to be that way. Romance is a cliche only if you allow yourself to think of it that way.

You don't have to serenade people in balconies or build enormous monuments to your love. Romance works well enough without Michael Bolton sappiness and extravagant gestures. You just have to keep in touch with what it's all about.

Sharing Yourself
Sometimes, there is nothing more romantic than truly sharing. The "give in order to receive" rule works here too. Yes, that sounds suspiciously like philanthropy, but while it is actually romantic to give up the last slice of pizza to the one you love, think about sharing on a deeper level - a poem you love, a song that speaks to you, a place that brings magic back into your life, or just a moment when everything clicks and falls into place.

Show your partner or someone you are beginning to know, something really beautiful. Share your innermost secrets, because that's what allows them to look at you and know that you two have a unique connection.

Careful Flirting
Why flirt when you've "got" the other person, and why flirt when years or even just months of being together have taken the passion out of your relationship? Life is all about balance.

You've got to make sure that seriousness and laughter meet halfway. Responsibility and familiarity are great, when tempered with judicious doses of abandon.

Flirting is fun and light-hearted, it reminds you of how things were and still could be, and besides, too much heavy stuff takes the romance out of romance. So bat those eyelashes and propose midnight walks. Just be sure that when your partner flirts with you, you're responsive.

No one likes feeling rejected, especially when they are making an effort to brighten your life.

The element of surprise
This is a natural extension of flirting. Be open to surprises and change in the routine, and you experience one of the fundamental joys of romance, the unexpected. Romance is all about being stimulated in new ways - you can never forget your first kiss, can you? Some people are afraid of commitment simply because it's the thrill of the first kiss or the first caress that they know they will miss. The element of surprise is one of the most vital, energizing things about being romantic. So say no to routine and predictability.

Respect Yourself and Partner
When you're in love you are automatically considerate and go out of your way to meet the other person halfway, right? Yet, if you think about it, romance is a pretty hedonistic feeling. It's all about another person making you feel like your world just expanded and filled with light and music.

But we've all seen this lovely feeling turn into pure selfishness when the first thrill dies down. People start taking each other for granted and expecting the other person to accommodate their every desire.

A healthy dose of respect means that you treat each other with greater understanding and sensitivity - qualities essential to keeping romance alive and truly meaningful.

It's an "Us" Thing
We all know that sex and romance are two different beasts, especially for the ladies, that guys are inarticulate and would replace red roses and candlelit dinners with a football game and beer. Utter Rubbish.

Believing this is akin to believing in the generalization that all men and women are the same because we all have two ears, two eyes and a nose. It can also limit your ideas about romantic experiences to red roses, teddy bears, pink ribbons and the like.

Every situation, every individual, and every couple is different, and when you realize that, you're on your way to having a truly healthy sense of the romantic.

You've got to make your own romantic history with another person, and if this means recognizing the significance of a stinky t-shirt, or that awful room you shared in a Cambodian village, so be it. Romance is not just this mushy thing you read about in women's magazines. It is what you make of it.

Take it easy
You know how queasy you were when you ate a whole chocolate cake instead of just one small, albeit sinfully calorie laden slice. The best things in life come in small, frequent doses.

Overdoing the whole romance thing can give you a hangover or aversion syndrome pretty fast, so other than the fundamentals, dispense the gestures judiciously. Make sure you keep the other person - and yourself - coming back for more.

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