Dating Tips for Girls Seeking Guys Online for Relationships

1.  Use your instincts. We know you want to trust everyone and believe everything they say, especially when they're saying what you want to hear. If it's too good to be true, it sometimes is. More often than not, the person you've met online is just the same in person, but take your time to get to know her/him/them.

2.  Remain anonymous. Until you know that the person or persons you're interested in are the sort you want to meet, remain anonymous. Most online dating services allow you to use a nickname and send mail using only the nickname and your dating service address. Don't be pressured to "send mail to my private email" because you'll be giving our your personal details in your return address.

3.  Remain wary. Don't believe everything you see on screen. If you have any doubts, ask questions. If there is even the slightest bit of doubt, move on. There are SO many people out there that could make you happy, so don't take a chance.

4.  Don't be pushed! If you're not ready to meet someone, don't be coerced into it. You'll be upset and you might be putting yourself at risk. So what if you're accused of "not being real", at least you'll feel good until you ARE ready to meet in person.

5.  Spend time online. If you're not 100% certain this person is for real, spend time online chatting or chat through email until you're sure.

6.  Talk on the phone. You can learn a lot about someone by talking over the phone. To ensure your anonymity, give a mobile phone number or use a pay phone. If you hear anything that gives you doubts, don't meet.

7.  Photos. It's true that a picture is worth 1000 words. It doesn't tell the whole story, but you can tell whether you're physically attracted to this person. If the photo looks too good to be true, ask for a photo to be taken somewhere you suggest. If it can't be done, it might not be their photo!

8.  Personality flaws. If your new friend displays controlling behavior (needs to know where you are, is unhappy when you do things away from the computer), shows anger or anything else that makes you feel uncomfortable, then this person is not going to make you happy. If you're an outgoing, friendly man, a clinging, dependent woman will drive you up the wall.

9.  Be safe. When you decide to meet for the first time, tell someone where you're going. Take your own car, public transportation or ask a friend to take you and pick you up. These security measures won't last forever and if he or she is put off by them, then tell them to find someone else. There is never going to be only one person that you must have in order to be happy.

10.  Always be alert. Safety precautions are not only for meeting new friends from the Internet. These guidelines are good ideas whether you're meeting someone you've met at a concert, in a pub or at the grocery store. Just be careful out there.

Ok girls, we all know that there is a fine line between women's lib and being too masculine. So, here's a modern day way to balance testosterone with our feminine side; a modern list of dating tips for women.

1. If he picks you up at your place, please remember the basics and offer him something to drink. There is nothing worse than being a nervous wreck and not knowing what to do with yourself. A glass of wine may be good for both of you. a pre-appetizer, if you will.
   
   
2. If you pick him up (brownie points if he agrees to that), bring him a little something. Get creative and have fun with it; it will make him smile and you'll stand out in his mind, especially if he has been on other recent dates!
   
   
3. At the car, if he opens the door for you that is fine. If you're smart, you'll reach over and unlock his door for him or, in today's world of car remotes, it may already be unlocked, so open it for him from your seat. Many men are expecting you to do this for your first "test," and this old technique will score you major points. If he does not open the door for you, he may just be making an effort to be thoughtful for the sake of women's lib. Either way, no worries and no need to sweat it.
   
   
4. If he is taking you to dinner, won't you be happier if you order what you want to eat, no matter how fattening, messy and large in proportion it might be? So suggest wings at Hooters if you are a wing lover, but at least eat something that can be considered a meal! No side salads with fat free ranch.
   
   
5. Avoid fake laughter! Only the real deal will work. On that same token, there is no need to make him feel totally pitiful even if he is. If the two of you are not connecting like Bonnie and Clyde, use your positive and fun attitude to make the most of your date, always keeping it real. You never know, he could be friends with your future husband.
   
   
6. Do I order dessert? Refer to #4. If this is even a question for you, you can just skip the manners lesson, pass go, do not collect $200 and sit at the Cheesecake Factory until you learn about good dessert! He'll be happy to share dessert with you as long as you feed it to him. Plus, this will show your ability to take initiative and make decisions.
   
   
7. Should you drink? Again, if you like to drink, order a beer. If not, order mineral water. Either way, hit the pool table after dinner to show him what you've got!
   
   
8. What's next, a dip in the hot tub? No ladies, this is not Blind Date. Be real; spend some time together in a more platonic activity.
   
   
9. What about the good night kiss? Remember that it's likely he is thinking the same awkward thoughts you are, and a good date does not have to continue to the bedroom. After all, this is not Blind Date. Kiss him back if you want to and don't if you don't. Most importantly, leave him with a witty last impression of you because that last impression can be just as important as the first!
   
   

   PerfectMatch.com - site review Utilizing a scientific matchmaker approach Perfect Match is literally a dating site that will focus on your preset criteria to search compatible singles that coincides with your individual personality and lifestyle.

   
   
   Compatibility is the state of being in which two or more people have a pattern of mutually beneficial similarities and dissimilarities (called complementarities).
   
   Relationships satisfy personal and social needs. Thus, compatibility occurs when two individuals are suitably matched in that both parties are fulfilled or satisfied across the facets that define us:
   
   Platonic versus romantic.
   Compatibility is at the base of all stable and satisfying interpersonal relationships - be they platonic or romantic.
   
   Core components of compatibility.
   Initial research indicated nine important components for Friendship Factors:
   
   1. Equal eligibilities
   
   2. Respect
   
   3. Trust
   
   4. Acceptance
   
   5. Mutual assistance
   
   6. Enjoyment
   
   7. Spontaneity
   
   8. Understanding
   
   9. Intimacy
   
   But, upon further investigation, it was narrowed to eight Friendship Factors:
   
   1. Self-disclosure
   
   2. Authenticity
   
   3. Helping behavior
   
   4. Acceptance
   
   5. Positive regard
   
   6. Strength of character
   
   7. Similarity
   
   8. Empathetic understanding
   
   All but strength of character became more important as friendships became closer and more intimate.
   
   By contrast, the following behaviors are considered to be the most detrimental to friendship:
   
   Jealousy or criticism
   
   Lack of tolerance for third parties
   
   Disclosing confidences
   
   Failing to show positive regard
   
   Failing to provide emotional support
   
   When seeking friendships, people look for qualities such as: Similarity
   
   Openness and a propensity for giving
   
   Self-disclosure
   
   Trust
   
   Acceptance
   
   Understanding
   
   Helping behaviors
   
   Belief statements from the Japanese concept of shinyuu (best friend) are helpful in illustrating what compatibility "looks" like across our Emotional, Intellectual, Physical and Spiritual facets.